1. I need complete Honesty at ALL times.
2. I need communication. Without it I have no basis for this relationship.
3. I need to be trusted
4. I need to be able to trust you!
5. I need to feel safe.
6. I need to know you accept me for all I am.
7. I need to have clearly defined limits/rules.
8. I need you to be consistent
9. I need to expand my limits.
10. I need goals.
11. I need you to teach me.
12. I need you to be my role-model
13. I need to be corrected, but NOT humiliated.
14. I need your approval and reasasurances.
15. I need to be able to express myself.
16. I need to learn from my mistakes
17. I need forgiveness when I fail you.
18. I need to feel I contribute to this relationship.
19. I need to share more than just D/s with you.
20. I need to enjoy my successes with you and others depending on what they are.
21. I need to be your only submissive, since I am not into Poly houses or chains.
22. I need attention, and when it is JUST us your total concentration. (turning off the cell phones).
23. I need to be lead by example.
24. I need to sometimes take things slow.
25. I need your understanding and patience, especially when I trigger.
26. I will sometimes need space/alone time
27. I need you to take control, lead me, etc.
28. I need to know there is a future here.
29. I need to be able to go back to this list or contract and revise anything that changes.
30. I need you to sometimes just be my friend, and not my Mistress.
31. I need to be able to step out of the dynamic and just talk out our issues if they arrive as two equal, respectful adults.
32. I need to know you will push me when I feel flighty.
33. I need to know that when I test my limits with you, you wont just give in.
34. I need to feel owned and dominated.
35. I need to know that if problems between us arrive, you can handle them.
36. I need you to step in when someone (even myself) is causing any harm, physically or emotionally.
37. I need you to share your life with me.
38. I need to feel grounded and secure in my submission
39. I need not to feel ashamed of my fantasies and desires
40. I need your love!